Monday, June 13, 2011

I hate you commissary bagger

While my sister was here we made a trip to the commissary. Not a big deal, she's not a normal house guest after all (she even lived with us for around a year when biggish first born) and really part of the fun of her visits is that they're really quite low key. We do some geocaching, goofing off, Scrabble playing, that's about it. But I we went to the commissary. Not exciting. What was exciting in my small world was having someone help wrangle my two small people. Which is when I got annoyed. Nay upset. No, that's not right either. Nope. That's when I got so mad that I seethed and then cried later. I very very rarely cry. I'm just not a crier but damn it all, it was rude and it HURT. 

If you've never been to a commissary then you may not know that there are baggers who work for tips only. They're frequently older Asian women at least in my experience they are. I usually don't have cash (damn this cashless society!) so I usually either take out my own or just use the self check out as to avoid the baggers however this day I used a bagger. I wish I had not and I probably will not any time in the near future. Yes it made me that mad. So we check out and all that jazz, the smalls are attached to auntie and are walking slower and showing her all kinds of things that are interesting to 3 and 6 year olds everywhere. I'm walking with the bagger and she asks me if the that was my nanny. I'm slightly befuddled as my sister and I look pretty darn similar - she's quite a bit taller (haha close to 6 inches, yes that was the bane of my existence growing up since she's younger) and I'm curvier. That's when the bagger said "huh well cause she so tall and skinny and you so fat." 


Did you just call me fat? You work for tips and you just flat out called me fat? I started shaking I was so upset. 

Yes I know I'm not the skinniest girl in the world (and for the record my sister is a runner and is in amazing shape but she's not even remotely close to stick thin either!!). I have CURVES! I'm 5' 6" and I am a story of averages, seriously. I am the average height of a woman, I am the average size of a woman. I wear a size 14. I've birthed and nursed two babies...and those puppies never shrank so yeah I'm a bit top heavy too.  I work out EVERY single day - we walk at least 2 miles a day every day. That hurt, weight is something that has always been a struggle for me. I've been dieting for basically 15 years...I don't eat crazy amounts of crap...although sometimes I want to and just give up and give into it but damnit I DON'T.

I reported her to management and didn't see her when I ran in yesterday. I don't want her to get fired but seriously hope that there were repercussions because I was in shock at the insane inappropriateness of her comments. 

But I think it's going to be a very long time before I use a bagger again....


  1. Whoa! I would have been completely taken aback. I hope someone gave her a swift lesson in why it is not acceptable to make comments on the personal appearance of customers, especially if you're angling for a tip. Unbelievable.

    If it's not one thing with the baggers, though, it's another. I had one nearly slam my arm in the car door when she reached for it without our permission (or even looking to see that we were clear, apparently). We'd vastly prefer to use self-checkout and avoid the whole mess, but the machines were so consistently broken that we just gave up.

  2. I was totally shaken, I didn't say another word to her nor did I, kind of obviously I think, tip her. I noted her number and called later. The manager who I spoke to was properly shocked and I got the impression that this was far from the first complaint about this particular bagger. I wonder how that works though as they are not technically commissary employees. Oh well...

    I bring my bags 95% of the time and it doesn't seem to be an option to use them at the self check out (although it is when you use Whole Food's self check out...oh how I wish they were closer than 90 minutes away!) so unless I have under 20 items which isn't often, I usually have to go thru the regular line. I just deal with the dirty looks though and tell them I'll take my own bags out...better than evil little baggers in my humble opinion ;-)

  3. Do you think it's the Asians? lol I remember once, many moons ago, when I was about 20 pounds less than I am now, and I was dress shopping in a store that was owned by an Asian lady. As I approached the woman, asking to be let into the dressing room, she says to me, "oh no, honey. You're not a little girl anymore. You will need a larger size dress." I was so taken back! Needless to say, I didn't shop in that store again.
    I'm sorry that bagger hurt your feelings. I think your curves are hawt, and you should be proud of the skin you're in!